By Christine Akiteng Many people completely hate the word "flattery" and to even say there is an art to this makes them shudder with total disgust. In a culture where everything is either right or wrong with very little room for the grays in between, I can understand why the word flattery rubs people the wrong way. I can also understand why many are sickened to the stomach because flattery is often associated with compromising ones values and integrity. But is flattery always a bad thing? And does flattery always have to be insincere? Does flattery make you more attractive and should you use the art of flattery on the men/women you find attractive? Personally I find that mild flattery does often move things along more pleasantly than outright candidness. While excessive insincere praises intended to put the other person into the position of owing something to the flatterer is cheap and cheesy (and often reveals emotionally "needy" personality out for approval), a little flattery does help to quickly warm up first meetings or bridge relationship gaps. For example starting off your conversation with a statement like You look gorgeous is surely better than starting with You forgot to put on your make-up today. By offering positive reinforcement, you are not only making the person feel good about herself but you are taking the small extra effort to actually show the person that you care about how she feels. She may come back with I dont have my make-up on to which you can respond with You still look good. But when you say I couldnt even tell you did not have make-up on or You look like you have make-up on, youve crossed over to the excessive insincere praise. In terms of bridging relationship gaps, a little flattery goes a long, long way. Say you are the hottest woman in your workplace or even at a party, taking the time to shake hands with the office boy or cleaner, or saying hi to the geeky-looking guy standing all by himself not only makes their day (they will be talking about it for days) but moves them away from feeling like a nobody in the eyes of society to somebody to those present (and to himself). Just by a simple gesture you show the person that you care about how they feel. Did I mention youll be ever so hotter! Having said that, I do not advocate using flattery to manipulate anothers self-doubt or use their feelings of inferiority against them. Using flattery for personal gain has its own come back to bite your ass consequences. You cant get round using flattery to always get what you want without starting to feel empty, phony, lonely and depressed. You can never genuinely and deeply connect with others if you are manipulating their feelings. Also keep in mind that flattery works for about 95 percent of people. Recognizing situations where flattery is appropriate is the secret of the art of flattery! About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships. Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com If you are afraid that your well-intended words might be misinterpreted or need more information and tools to make your interactions with the opposite sex more interesting and lasting, visit the articles section of my websites for tips on The Art of Flattery for Beginners. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Christine_Akiteng http://EzineArticles.com/?The-Art-Of-Flattery---Using-Flattery-To-Become-More-Attractive&id=527365 ambien picture about
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